
The two most common reasons women give for faking orgasms are to make their partners feel better and to end sex when they are tired. A lot of women with male partners believe that their partners are not satisfied until they “give” their female partner an orgasm, thus sex will continue until the woman either has an orgasm, or fakes orgasm.
Other reasons why men and women fake orgasms are:
1. You don’t want your lover to feel like a loser. You want to please your partner and are afraid of offending.
2. You just want to get it over with. Your lover isn’t rocking your boat and you’re sick of going through the motions in trying to make things work.
3. Sex-inhibiting antidepressants or lost libido.
4. You feel disconnected from your partner.
5. You’ve just realized that that person you brought home looked better at the bar.

Why it is not good to fake an orgasm?
1. You are training your lover to be a bad lover. You might not feel bad immediately after you do it, but in the end, you're hurting both yourself and your spouse.
2. You are betraying your needs. You’re denying the opportunity for both of you to explore each other’s needs, techniques for improvement, and greater intimacy.
3. You are giving your lover a false sense of security. Your partner should know if they are not satisfying you. Once they do know, they can learn to do it better. Honesty in the bedroom is just as important as honesty everywhere else in the relationship.
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Here’s the questions Sugar ladies….are you a faker for the sake of saving your partner the embarrassment that he could not make you orgasm?
Is there any advice you can give the other members that was NOT mentioned above?
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Eric Van Peterson
that may sound strangest you ever heard - i never fake anything but tell bluntly that it does/did not work... what is the use of even a friendly lie? maybe the cause of lying more to cover it...
1I say to any woman... be completely honest with your man. Tell him that he's not making you orgasm. It may not be a problem with him but with YOU instead.
I think women should think deeply before they lie to him because they may be able to sit down TOGETHER and figure new ways they can have sex, that may make her finally orgasm, and then him have an even BETTER orgasm for himself.
2you are right - it is also abt confidence and trust - and learning/teaching how to make love is easier than admitting lies...
3i'll fake an orgasm when i'm not particularlly in the mood and i've put him off for a while - not the best idea i know, i just wanna sleep.
4A lot of women do that but like the article said, it makes them lazy after a while. So you have to discuss sooner or later, why you're faking it with him or why you're so tired. It's better to have a healthy relationship all the way around if you can.
5I have only faked it a few times - only when I am really tired - as I don't want to make the other person feel bad.
And, now, talking about it in the open with David and letting him know that yes - I have a couple of times only because I was tired. Now he actually feels better because he told me "You don't ever have to do that because if you don't it is nothing I didn't do, it is just that you weren't in the mood at the time, and that is okay". Open communication is the key!
Great post Pink!
6Actually, women who orgasm are very lucky - as there are many women who can't...
7Wow, I'm glad these post are helping you both *blondeyy*. I guess starting this group was really worth it.
As I was telling *Gamestomper*, you have to discuss it with your man sooner than later. You can't keep faking it with him without his knowledge because he's not healthy for the relationship. Hopefully this post and other will make her feel more comfortable to tell him one day.
8When I said "you both" I meant helping you and David.
9Yeah you're right. Women do need to be more honest so that they won't have to fake it. It's not worth it because you don't obviously get anything out of faking it. The only one that enjoys themselve is your man...not fair in my opinion.
10Thank you for your comment! I hope you enjoy the rest of the blogs too
11Women need to express how they feel more and stop faking it. Women deserve to be satisfied too, each and every time they're intimate.
12You are so right with that statement. And thanks for dropping by with your comment *JSP*
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