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This is a private group. This group is NOT for Sugar members under 18 years of age, and it is NOT for grown women that act 12 years old. Café Kama Sutra is for mature adult women that need advice, want to give advice, or just want a few professional facts, that I will post, that will help them in their relationship/marriage. Obviously this group will have mature sexual content.

If at ANY time I personally feel that you’re being immature, rude, or using foul language against another member that may make them feel more insecure about their situation, you will not only be dismissed from our private group, but you will also be reported to Community Manager so that your behavior can be duly noted, for future reports and possibly a dismissal from the website.

In Café Kama Sutra I will…..

1. Give easy quizzes that will enlighten you to sexual facts that you need to know.

2. Offer tips on how to better your sex life, how to handle your sexuality better, or how to gain a better spouse or improve the one that you have.

3. I will ask you a question about relationships that will cause you to reveal your personal thoughts about the subject or tell a personal story that may help another member in the group that needs your help.

If at anytime you want to email me to suggest a topic in private, then please do so. It will be kept confidential.


Happy Valentines Day - ladies of Kama Sutra!! & Grandpa :)

Posted By PinkNC on Feb 14, 2010 at 1:14PM

Happy Valentines Day - ladies of Kama Sutra!! & Grandpa :)

I hope you all receive the perfect day that you crave :)


Will you be celebrating Valentine’s with someone, or enduring it all alone?

Posted By PinkNC on Feb 13, 2010 at 6:20PM

What are your plans ladies :) Will anything sensual be going on Valentines Day evening with your loved one......or will you be cuddled up with your favorite handsome leading man in a good movie for the night? Or maybe you're like PinkNC and would enjoy a good book to read instead of the TV :)


Yummy Valentine’s Day Treats to Make Tonight!

Posted By PinkNC on Feb 13, 2010 at 5:59PM

Red Velvet Whoopie Pies. I think these would be a lovely Valentine’s Day surprise for just about anyone special in your life: your man, your best friend, your mom. Extra credit if you make a few batches and take them into work. I guarantee your co-workers will love you.

Red Velvet Whoopie Pies With Cream Cheese Frosting

Makes 10 medium cookie pies (cake recipe adapted from My Baking Heart)

1-1/4 c all-purpose flour
1 tbsp cocoa powder
3/4 tsp baking soda
5 tbsp butter, at room temperature
1/2 c + 2 tbsp sugar
1 egg
1 tbsp red food coloring
1 tsp vanilla
1/2 c buttermilk * (you can make buttermilk by combining 1 Tbsp white vinegar or Lemon Juice. and pouring in milk til you reach 1 cup. Let sit for 5 min = buttermilk!)

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Line two baking sheets with parchment paper. In a medium bowl, sift together flour, cocoa, and baking soda.

Beat butter with the sugar until fluffy, about 3 minutes. Beat in the egg, food coloring and vanilla. Beat in the flour mixture alternately with the buttermilk until smooth.

Place heaping tablespoons of batter 2 inches apart on the prepared baking sheet.
Spread a teeny bit but not too much, otherwise you'll end up with pancakes. Bake until a toothpick inserted in the center comes out dry, 12 to 15 minutes. Let the cookies sit for 5 minutes, then transfer to a rack to cool.

Once cool, frost half with cream cheese frosting and sandwich the rest together.

Cream Cheese Frosting

8 oz cream cheese
1 stick of butter
2 cups of confectioner's sugar
1 tsp vanilla

Soften the cream cheese and butter slightly and beat. Add in the vanilla. When combined pour in the confectioner's sugar stirring throughout.

Take your time preparing this dish and when presenting your treats on a beautiful platter for you and your mate :)

Here are some questions: Do you ever bake or make presents? What sorts of gifts do you usually give? Is your man a good cook? Who would you make these yummy whoopie pies for?

Which of These 6 Fun Flirty Panties Would You Wear on Valentines Day?

Posted By PinkNC on Feb 13, 2010 at 5:38PM


victorias-secret-This polka-dot cheeky panty has the most adorable bow!



Victoria Secret - Heart Back Panties


Victoria's Secret - This hiphugger is a flattering mix of lace and velvet that he won't be able to resist


Victoria's Secret - This underwear will give him a playful hint-hint...and the pom-poms are detachable!


The Valentines Day Pajama Set by Victoria Secret

Love Sayings & Quotes you'll love

Posted By PinkNC on Feb 13, 2010 at 5:05PM


Love without return is like a question without an answer


When you love someone, all your saved-up wishes start coming out.

- Elizabeth Bowen


Love is not a matter of counting the years…
But making the years count.

- Michelle St. Amand


In dreams and in love there are no impossibilities.

- Janos Arany


Just because someone doesn’t love you
in the way you want them to, doesn’t mean that they don’t love you with all they’ve got.

- Anonymous


A heart that loves is always young.

- A Greek Proverb


You can give without loving,
But you cannot love without giving.

- Amy Carmichael


True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is equal and pure, without violent demonstrations: it is seen with white hairs and is always young in the heart.

- Honore de Balzac


All love that has not friendship for its base, is like a mansion built upon the sand.

- Ella Wheeler Wilcox


Come live in my heart, and pay no rent.

- Samuel Lover


The most precious possession that ever comes
To a man in this world.....Is a woman’s heart.

- Josiah G. Holland

12. You love simply because you cannot help it.

- Kim Anderson


True love always makes a man better, no matter what woman inspires it.

- Alexandre Dumas Pere

14. Arguments out of a pretty mouth are unanswerable.

- Joseph Addison


A kiss is a lovely trick designed by nature to stop speech
when words become superfluous.

- Ingrid Bergman


Love, and do what you like.

- Agostino

How to look extra sexy for a romantic night

Posted By PinkNC on Feb 13, 2010 at 4:25PM

Maintain Your Sexy

Valentine's Day is here, and although it is, in fact, a commercial holiday, it'd still be a lot of fun to show your love on the special day. Stoked for the special night but don't know how to prepare? Don't slack - get lingerie ready by following these simple tips. And remember, this advice applies to other romantic nights of the year, so use them as necessary.

Buy Something New

Hello, Fredericks of Hollywood, Victoria's Secret and Figleaves. It's time to purchase some sexy in the form of pretty lingerie. Before the romantic evening, ask your man what he likes. Who knows, he may want you in a football jersey. Or, like most men, he'll probably ask to see you in lace and chiffon. It's good to communicate expectations beforehand so he can grow in anticipation and you can plan ahead. Visit your favorite lingerie store (if applicable, that is) and get something you know not only he will like, but you will love to see yourself in.

Groom Yourself

This goes without saying - don't forget to shave, trim, wax what you need to. Depending on yours and/or your lover's preference of hair, of course, groom accordingly so there are no surprises during the romantic night. If you're feeling a little frisky, consider a special design on your you-know-what, like a heart or star.

Stay Away from Junk

Newsflash - salty foods make you bloated. So stay away from potato chips, fast food, and ramen noodles for a week before your fab fling. Consuming foods with a lot of sodium will only add water weight, making your tummy look bigger than it normally is. Stick with natural foods before your romantic night. Shop at Wholefoods and farmer's markets. Eat salads with light dressing and lots of whole grain pastas, rice and bread. Doing so will make your body sexier than it already is!

Set the Mood

To sex up the room, you'll need two manipulate two important things: the lighting and aroma. Give your bedroom or living room that romantic glow it doesn't normally have.. Instead of using plain old tealight candles, consider PartyLite's Scents of Illumination. These unique translucent solid fragrance-filled wine glasses will hold tealight candles. It really provides a nice touch to your wine setup and table setting. You can get them in scents like champagne pear (if you're having white wine) and Tuscan vineyards (if you're having red wine).. They retail for $32.95 each or you can get two for $62.95 at www.partylite.com. You can also get the tea lights there for $9.50 for a dozen.

Own Your Sexy

No matter what you do to get ready for the lovely day - whether you groom, eat right, and dress sultry - your sex appeal won't go very far if you don't own it. After you follow the steps above, it's very important to know, remember and maintain how sexy you are.

Once you and your lover are "in the moment," just enjoy yourself, each other and the night. Then, repeat every day if possible to keep that love alive. Valentine's Days, anniversaries and honeymoons aren't the only occasions for fun loving.

Gifts to impress your girlfriend/boyfriend

Posted By PinkNC on Feb 13, 2010 at 4:18PM

Gifts are liked by all but a personalized gift has a different value. You can get a personalized gift for your girlfriend/boyfriend. Some women would be satisfied by the traditional gift item like flowers or jewelry. There are many who want some personalized gift for the special girl they love. In this article of dating advice, a lot of personalized gifts are advised that you can get for your mate.

Some gift stores have customized service. The customized gift item has a long lasting impression on your beloved. You can consult her/or his good friend to know what they like the most if you’re not sure yet because it’s a new relationship.

You can present a t-shirt to your mate with a photo of you and them sharing some good moments. You can even write a personalized poem for them and sign on the back of it.

You can always get a personalized song composed for her. They are sung by professional singers and also have the name of the person to whom the song is dedicated. You can get a set of crockery that have some love messages written on it for your mate. These are very effective dating advices.

All these are some of the brilliant gifts that you can easily get for her/him. If you have some other ideas in your mind then go for it and amaze her/him with your gift. They’ll feel on the top of the world.

Design your bedroom into desire

Posted By PinkNC on Feb 10, 2010 at 11:04AM

Make your bedroom a place for a night of romance you’ll both desire...Allure your significant other into a personalized romantic room that is an elegant and stunning design - especially for a late night surprise. A lovely day together...return to a romantic room lit only by candlelight and the sight of rose petals strewn about...an inviting bath with ultra soft bath towels and bathrobes...bed sheets with "love messages"...inspire desire....

Here's all you’ll need for an enchanting romantic bedroom for your perfect romantic rendezvous:

*Luxury Cotton Bed Sheets
*Heart Necklace with Earrings
*Cotton Bath Towels
*1000 Silk Rose Petals
*12 Votive Candles or 24 LED Votives
*Heart Shaped Glass Vase
*Chocolate Truffles
*Feather Boa
*Romantic Music CD
*Bubble Bath
*Rose Bath Petals
*Lavender Bath Salts
*Bath Caviar
*Bath Confetti
*Massage Lotion
*Cloth Envelope (put a sensual romantic message on her/his pillow)

How to begin….

1. Pick up a dozen of her favorite roses and place on the nightstand in a red heart shaped vase. Beside the
roses place a votive candle.

2. Make a trail of 1000 silk rose petals to lead you from the front door to the bedroom and bath area.

3. Light the path with 12 votive candles

4. Scatter 100 silk rose petals on top of the bed sheets and pillowcases. Do a fresh rose turn down, placing one fresh rose on her pillow beside a heart necklace and earrings.

5. Place a cloth envelope with your special personal gift message against the pillow.

6. On top of the nightstand, place chocolate truffles and cool strawberries - partly for decoration, partly to satisfy a craving for

7. Put on the romantic music CD on the CD player.

8. Place a feather Boa in a heart shape around your personalized bed sheet message, as
decoration and use the boa later for some romantic fun, such as for erotic dancing.

9. While you get settled into your little romantic rendezvous, draw a warm bath. Around the bath area, place
an assortment of luxurious bath gel, bath soap petals, bath caviar and heart bath confetti.

10. Place a 3 piece set of cotton bath towels on the side of the tub.

11. While the bath is filling with some nice warm water, put in a bit of bath caviar, then pour in several capfuls
of bubble bath to make sure there are lots of bubbles. Add some lavender bath salts.

12. When the water level is just right and you have lots of bubbles, sprinkle in some rose bath petals, and
bath confetti on top of the bubbles.

13. When exiting your bath, dry off with your cotton bath towels and slip back into
bed and enjoy a soothing massage with some nice smelling aroma moisturizing massage lotion.

14. Be sure to set the mood with ambient lighting, drawing the drapes, and setting the music.

15. After your massage, relax, put your feet up and nibble on some chocolate truffles.

10 Ways to make your relationship more thrilling

Posted By PinkNC on Feb 10, 2010 at 10:16AM

**Romantic thrills**

The start of a relationship is exciting, risky, even a bit scary, and we savor every slightly out-of-control minute of it. "I'm crazy for him," we say. "He makes my heart pound." That early relationship thrill comes from the high of discovery, from learning your partner's passions and fears. It's the mystery of the unknown and the anticipation of the unexpected: What's he thinking? Will he call?

As a relationship matures, though, we tend to trade that intense feeling of free-falling for contentment and security. But why can't we have the best of both worlds: a rock-solid, comfortable, deeply fulfilling partnership and a regular injection of "but I barely know you" mystery? According to relationship experts and some thrill-seeking couples, we can.

Here are 10 ways to stay in love and never stop falling

1. Scare yourselves silly

Medical experts liken the body's fear response to sexual arousal — our pulse quickens and we break out in a sweat, which may explain why people voluntarily bungee-jump or descend full speed down glaciers on skis. We get a rush from being scared in a somewhat controlled environment, and when we do it with a partner, we're brought together by the feeling of having conquered our fears hand in hand.

2. Spill a secret

Intimacy and thrills go hand in hand, which is probably why the initial getting-to-know-you period at the beginning of a relationship is so exciting.

3. Place a bet

You and your husband have $20 on Hootenanny to win in the sixth race. He rounds the far turn three back from the lead, but he's closing in fast. The horses thunder past you down the stretch, and Hootenanny wins by a nose!

You jump into your husband's arms and suddenly realize you're having a blast. The adrenaline rush, the decadence of throwing caution (and a few bucks) to the wind, and the slightly sleazy atmosphere of the track or your average casino all make gambling a great way to inject a little pizzazz into your relationship.

Of course, you don't have to wager your hard-earned cash to get the same effect: Try playing strip poker in your living room after the kids go to bed or going to a pool hall and betting on who has to make dinner for the next week.

4. Be a little daring

When I was in high school the "in" thing to do during the wee hours of a warm summer night was to sneak into the local pool and go skinny-dipping. Fear of getting caught in a compromising position is guaranteed to evoke some thrills and chills, and you can bring back that feeling as adults in small ways that won't get you thrown in the slammer. How, you ask?

The next time the two of you go to a movie, hide in the last row of the theater and fool around.

5. Relive your first date

Your first date was a mystery that had yet to be solved. There were several juicy clues — the look in your date's eyes, the way he kissed you — and plenty of nervous tension. But even though you know how that mystery turned out, returning to the scene of that first crime can bring back some of those old goosebumps.

6. Cyber-romance each other

These days it's far too easy for a chasm of cyberspace to grow between a husband and wife. He can spend hour after hour playing a computer game, and she can't seem to get enough of the Women.com chat rooms. But with a few quick clicks, you can use this very same technology to hot-wire your marriage. "With the accessibility of e-mail," says Michele Weiner-Davis, a marriage and family therapist in Woodstock, IL, and author of Divorce Busting, "we can take the time to do things we wouldn't ordinarily do, like sending love letters."

One woman she knows decided that if her husband was going to spend all of his time surfing the Internet, she would express her feelings online. She e-mailed him a very personal romantic poem and got an amazingly romantic response.

7. See each other in a different light

Kristen Kiser, 30, of Astoria, NY, and her husband add a spark to their marriage by hosting a holiday dinner for friends who can't make it home for the holiday. "I get to see what Marc's like in action, when he's taking charge and acting the host," she says. "It makes me fall in love with him all over again."

Says Los Angeles psychotherapist Suzanne Lopez, author of Get Smart with Your Heart, "Seeing your partner with different eyes has to do with letting go of preconceived ideas. It can really change the energy in a relationship for the better." Other eye-opening ideas: Consider taking a boxing class together at the gym, where you both might be a bit more wild and aggressive than usual, or dance lessons, where you might surprise each other with your grace.

8. Become a master of seduction

A little bit of forethought can awaken some of the passion in your marriage, even on an ordinary Tuesday night. Rob Czaplewski, 29, of Grand Island, NB, likes to get home from work before his wife and put a love note on the back door. "Then I have her favorite music playing with all the candles lit in the living room and a bed of pillows on the floor," he says, "and finally, the promise of a backrub to help her relax."

Jenna Schlehuber, 42, of Moran, MI, used a bottle of cologne to build temptation. She bought her husband a scent she really liked and had it wrapped. When he went upstairs that evening to take his shower, she left it on his pillow with a card that said, "Would you wear this tonight for me, and only this?" Says Schlehuber, "After a few minutes, I went upstairs to find him just the way I asked, waiting patiently for me to come to bed. What a romantic evening we had — better than ever. And he loved the cologne, too."

9. Profit from the passion

Sex is something relationship experts universally agree will bolster just about every area of a marriage — including its thrill quotient. Increased sexual contact is a way to recapture the erotic force that brought you together in the first place.

Weiner-Davis tells of one woman who, soon after resolving to have more sex with her husband, not only characterized her marriage as more thrilling but said that he suddenly began mowing the lawn regularly and making her coffee in the morning — unasked.

10. Take a trip to nowhere

At the beginning of your relationship, every date was an adventure; you never knew quite what was going to happen or how it was going to end up. So one weekend, take a trip — overnight or just for the day — without knowing where you're going. No packing, no planning.

Says Patty Moosbrugger, 35, of New York City, who's been married for six years, "Every now and then we just grab sweaters and sandwiches and get on a train. We get out when we feel like it and spend the day exploring wherever we land." By letting go of some of the control you have over your lives, you'll recapture that exciting sense of the unknown you felt when you first met.
Source: Sheknows

Tips for that first date following a *Singles Event*

Posted By PinkNC on Feb 10, 2010 at 10:11AM

Safety first!

1. Before leaving the home you need to make sure that you know enough information about your destination.

2. Agree to meet in a well-lit open public place where there'll be others nearby.

3. Do not agree for one of you to provide transportation for the other or to be picked up at your home. Keep in mind, that if you find out that your date is mentally unstable, at least you'll have the comfort of knowing that they DO NOT know where you live.

4. Tell someone like a relative or friend about your plans and write down the details of the meeting in a date book or on a calendar.

5. Plan to bring a cell phone and have the number of the person whom you're meeting handy. DO NOT put your cell phone deep into the bottom of your purse - where it will be hard to get to in a hurry. And remember to bring cash & credit cards.

6. Remember getting to know each other is not a race, take your time. Keep in mind that you just met this person and they DO NOT know any of your family and friends. He/she is a complete stranger. Intimacy should be a complete NO NO.

7. Don’t tell every thing about yourself as you do not know the other person very well.

One factor i.e. very important is the sense of humor. Do not forget to take it with you.

:) If you guys can think of any other safety tip then please feel free to share with everyone :)